Sunday, February 19

Touchy Feely

I think I've always been a relatively touchy feely person. Even when I was a kid I always needed to hold a parent's hand. And when co-ed college came (and with it girls) it wasn't a rare sight to see me linking arms with or greeting with a hug a close(ish) friend. Not that this is or was a girl thing - I'm also pretty feely with guys too, although possibly not with the linking arms bit.

Of course not everyone is the same. Some people prefer their space and boundaries, and quite fairly so. However, as I get older I think I'm finding it more difficult to tell which camp a particular person is in. I guess the safe thing to do is to avoid it all and keep your distance with everyone till you're sure of their feelings on the matter (possibly by seeing how they react with other people), but by then it's too late and possibly even more awkward to change your mannerisms once they've been demonstrated.

And even then there have been times I've gotten it wrong. And any excess embarrassment aside (I'm used to making an ass of myself), it is possible to offend others by invading their space (or even not invading it after they've seen me act a different way towards others). I don't care how I look, but it's a good idea to be mindful of the sensibilities and feelings of others.

There's not much one can do except be honest and open, and thus hopefully minimising any embarrassment or disrespect, and I guess that's what this blog is about. It's all a part of growing, maturing and being able to meet new people though, and if mistakes are made along the way, well, that's all a part of it innit?


  1. If you ever get the pleasure of meeting me... Don't hug me!! I am the complete opposite of you, I've yet to master the technique of doing the hugs and kisses, not that i am not a sensitive warm person or anything, i just dont know how or when to time hugs! honestly, the number of times i've nearly broken a rib or given a black eye (unwittingly) while attempting an embrace is incalcuable! :(

  2. [not deliberately wishing to digress from ur blog, shak[which is quite a personal take-thumps up]. honest..this just needs to be done!]

    >>honestly, the number of times
    i've nearly broken a rib or given a black eye (unwittingly) while attempting an embrace is incalcuable! :(

    Sarah, perhaps this is the best time to introduce you to Zahera?

    Cue zed:


  3. Sigh- look yeh, your devdas daag was all your own doing, for gods sake i got off the coach and you grabbed me from god knows where! i was like "what the flip, who is this!" ;-)

    I cant help it if i like hugging properly, ive never broken any ribs as of yet and im not that bad :-( most people appreciate them-dunno why you lot complain so much! Funnily enough when i was younger i used to hate hugging, forget that- i used to hate linking arms with my girlie mates! Dunno what happened.
    Going back to shak's blog- im actually so much more comfortable with not hugging guys anymore at all(except my closest cousins)! No awkward feelings and they know where they stand; i then also dont suffer from a guilty conscience and as shaks so kindly pointed out once- atleast his back thanks me (no no really i wasnt offended-sniff)!

  4. Fine zed. We’ll stick with your theory. I dont mind..

    >> most people appreciate them-dunno why you lot complain so much!

    nah joking(and scar) aside, your hugs are very warm and loving - like maz's actually.

  5. Hmm...interesting piece of writing. But if i [ever] get the pleasure of meeting you Shak, i'm with Sarah. Not that i'm assuming you'd want to hug me or anything...