Monday, October 4

Unintentional Stalking

I'm sure some guy here will relate: You're walking down a street which happens to be dark, this being that time of the year. Ahead of you is a girl, by herself, walking in the same direction.

Now, maybe I'm alone in this, but I always try not to shadow a girl walking in the same direction as me, y'know, just in case she feels uncomfortable (I've been told that I dress like mugger. Sigh). What usually happens is that I speed up, she gets this, slows down and allows me to pass her, and then we both go back to our normal paces but me in full view of her. I hope you see what I mean.

Some don't get this though. No, they decide to match my pace giving me no chance to be the gentleman that I wish to be. "That's cos she doesn't give a crap about you, Shak! You're not even on her radar, mate!" I hear you cry. Then why did the one today keep looking over her shoulder as if to keep tabs of my position?

So tell me:
a) Am I being overly sensitive here? Or am I right in thinking that some girls may feel intimidated with a guy following a few metres behind in her footsteps?
b) What should I do if she doesn't allow me to fix this? I'm not going to start jogging past her, neither am I going to slow my pace (hey, I want to get home some time, y'know). So, what?
c) Should I even care? I have no intention of doing anything scary etc, so should I just mind my own business since her paranoia is her own issue to deal with, not mine?
d) Are any girls reading impressed with my gallantry yet?

Comments please.


  1. Awww Shaks, your soo sweet such a gentleman.. if only there was more guys like yo.

    Umm to be honest Shak I am one of those who will work faster if a guy is behind me in a dark st.. But usually the guy will slow down or walk normal pace.

    Shak, how come you always a few steps away from each other Can't you slow down or walk ahead first??

    Maybe you should not be soo paranoid.. I mean dont walk up her ass just maintain a safe distance and we are usually okay with this.

  2. But how safe is a safe distance. I'm with Spammy to be honest and prefer speeding up to overtake them.

  3. You are very right to do so Guys, but some of us girls don't want to wait and hang about to see why your speeding up.. past has taught me otherwise.

    I admit its akward for both parties if they have no bad intentions, but if the girl is going to speed up you don't have a choice.

    If you can cross the road then there's a option. By the way this girl was looking back at you Spamms.. was she baffled by your looks ;op

  4. Ah. Never thought of that. The speeding up might make them more nervous.

  5. Girls should seriously not be walking on their own in the dark.

  6. but sometimes there's no option. for example, there are single mothers who have to hold down two jobs to make ends meet, can't afford taxis so have to take the bus and have to walk from the bus stop to their home

  7. correct non-threatening response:

    call you mother/gran on the mobile and discuss matters such as a cousin's wedding, cooking tips, the smell of fresh dew on grass

    this will put the young lady completely at ease now she sees that you are a well mannered mother-loving kind of boy

    using this method you can easily get close enough to smell the girl's hair

  8. lol@mochano.

    Os, i get yer point man. i wasnt referring to /women/ was i?

    no seriously though, what i do is allow the weirdo from behind to walk past me - and if he doesnt then *i* cross the road and keep looking behind me. or in extreme cases, where i can cross the road or summik, i would prolly run.

    as for Shak, well has anyone thought that this girl might have actually been eyeing him up...?

  9. Truth is that either way a female may be intimidated, but Mocho has a point why not call someone shak, I mean as long as your not chatting anything threatening it may ease the girls mind that your busy.Sofs when I walk at night I usually call someone.. actually that person is usually you.

    I prefer the crossing roads technique too, but shak if you can walk past that girl then that's great.. but you should watch out girls are not so innocent either especially to young innocent looking boys ;op

  10. if shes feeling paranoid already, and keeps looking at him..and then he gets the phone out - well he could be calling his crew...or gangsters or anyone. that might worry the girl more. unless, he made it clear that he - as mochano suggested, was calling hi gran or something. though that might look dodgy too.

    i would be paranoid about using the phone myself sanny. especially in the you could get mugged just for the phone or summink.

  11. im one of those thats always paranoid if a guy's behind me, more so, in a dark street. i always slow down and let him go in front. it is paranoia on my part...but it just feels safer! and yes shak you /are/ gallant....

    (note to self: always tell shak hes a great guy, makes him happy..)

  12. bumbles: i was wondering why hes so BIG HEADEDED.. its all thanks to you ;-)

  13. tbh, if i was in that girls position yesterday, i prolly would have quickened my pace too. I'm a right scardey cat, and hardly go out in the dark on my own. The guy can be perfectly innocent and just minding his own business like Shak was, but i'll have all sorts of things going through my mind like "stay on a busy road, even though it will add 10 minutes to your journey".

    I'd never thought that maybe they were speeding up to actually get in front of me so i would feel less threatened. Oh, and i've used the phone technique in the past, even if it was to calm my own nerves (",)

  14. >> as for Shak, well has anyone thought that this girl might have actually been eyeing him up...?

    i'm pretty sure we can assume that's not what she was doing. i mean, we're talking about shak!