Comments on Radio Shak: Shak's Choice: Gursharonjit Grewal

"I have to (respectfully of course) admit tha...

2010-01-08T10:32:40.423Z

"I have to (respectfully of course) admit that she's not super stunning in the celebrity sense,..."

Totally disagree. I think she is absolutely beautiful and she came across as a warm, sincere, intelligent young woman facing an immensely painful issue with great dignity.

People who want a role model for young women, British-Indian or not, need look no further.

Anon, I'm 'a female' and I don't &...

2009-12-21T21:54:54.443Z

Anon, I'm 'a female' and I don't 'see it'.

shay is actually quite manipulative and a creep; n...

2009-12-18T23:34:53.051Z

shay is actually quite manipulative and a creep; nothing genuine about her. But as a male you obviously wouldn't see it.

OMGYOURERIGHTITMUSTBEFATE!

2009-12-04T00:01:16.492Z

OMGYOURERIGHTITMUSTBEFATE!

Anyone else notice that "Shak" and "...

2009-12-03T23:46:18.019Z

Anyone else notice that "Shak" and "Shay" is only a single letter different? Fate or coincidence?

@ Anon. I don't think anyone is saying Shay ha...

2009-12-02T18:12:35.526Z

@ Anon. I don't think anyone is saying Shay has it all, as we know she doesn't, her relationship with her own family isn't great. But I guess the reason we warm to her so much is because she's trying to make amends, we 'see' the struggle and credit her for that. And it is a bit cynical to say she's attentive towards her inlaws and not her own family. But isn't it obvious why? She has to make the best out of her new situation. And I am sure she'd be just as attentive to her own if they would see/meet her.

Of course we don't really know the real extent of the story but I don't think Shay leaving her family demeans her character.

Also, agree it would be interesting to see if the roles were reversed but guys don't end up in situations like that. Mothers are usually more accepting of their son's choices/faults than their daughters. Kind of the harsh reality of the Asian coomunity.

Anon, Quite a cynical attitude, and I'm not s...

2009-12-02T15:33:28.315Z

Anon,

Quite a cynical attitude, and I'm not sure how you can so confidently make the association between her current behaviour and her relationship with her mum (her dad has passed away and from what she says she'd have had a pretty good one with him even now).

To say that a girl can only be these things if they leave their parents sounds like a cop out to me, or even an excuse for the opposite behaviour. In fact to call it a sacrifice, as if it's something she's chosen to do deliberately, is a bit insulting.

That's not to say that I disagree with the idea that a person can't be everything and of course there are things missing in Shay; perhaps she's not as professional or career minded as her peers or the most academically intelligent or socially outgoing. Whether or not these things are relevant is a matter of personal preference - it's clear that for a lot of us they simply aren't.

She finds "it an honour to massage her in-law...

2009-12-02T13:03:20.853Z

She finds "it an honour to massage her in-laws head/feet or even thread uncle's nose" but has no contact with her own parents.

No woman can do it all: be beautiful, undemanding, smiley, do the housework, have ambition (but not too much, mind, that's unattractive), rub her in-laws feet etc. Something has to give. In this case, it's her relationship with her own parents. I hope no man would think this sacrifice worth it.

I wonder what people's opinions would be if the roles were reversed and he had no contact with his family and putting all effort into his wife's family. Would he be admired so?

P.S. She's very pretty!

quite fancy her myself.

2009-12-01T22:35:02.911Z

quite fancy her myself.

sounds and looks lovely!

2009-12-01T13:24:04.315Z

sounds and looks lovely!

To be fair we never really know everything about a...

2009-11-30T14:42:03.344Z

To be fair we never really know everything about any of the celebs we hold at such high esteem; we only have what we know to go with.

I wonder if her side knew about the show while it was filming?

Fair enough. However, I do feel we're not gett...

2009-11-30T14:15:13.320Z

Fair enough. However, I do feel we're not getting the whole story on her relationship with her (biological) mother and immediate family. I tend to reserve judgement until I hear both sides of the story. I can't imagine them being too pleased with their dirty laundry being aired on prime time Channel 4.

Sunny is gonna sooooooo kick your bum hole. Shay ...

2009-11-30T02:05:23.468Z

Sunny is gonna sooooooo kick your bum hole.

Shay Rocks!

She's old skool is what she is.

2009-11-30T01:02:11.749Z

She's old skool is what she is.